The Difference Between Sex and Sexuality

“When a peacock dances you don’t condemn it, but the dance is sex; it is to attract the female. When the cuckoo calls you don’t condemn it; it is sex. The cuckoo is simply declaring, “I am ready.” The cuckoo is simply calling forth the woman. The sound, the beautiful sound, is just a seduction; it is courtship.”

Sex is beautiful, sexuality is ugly, and the difference has to be understood. Sex is a natural phenomenon. Sexuality is unnatural, abnormal and pathological. When sex becomes cerebral, when sex enters in your head, it becomes sexuality.

Now, the head is not the center for sex. It is getting into confusion, it is getting upside down, it is getting deranged. Sex is not the function of the head, but when sex enters in through the head it becomes sexuality. Then you think about sex, then you fantasize about sex. And the more you think, the more you fantasize about it, the more you will get into trouble because then nothing real will ever satisfy you because there is no limitation on fantasy, and reality is limited.

For example, if you start thinking too much about sex you can create beautiful women – women which are only your fantasy; you will never find them anywhere in the world. Or men…you will never come across them. No real woman or man will ever satisfy you because of the fantasy. No real man or woman can fulfill your expectations of fantasy. Fantasy is fantasy; it is a dream.

You can fantasize a woman who does not perspire, whose body has no body odor. You can fantasize a woman who is always sweet and never bitter. You can fantasize a woman who is always loving and warm and welcoming and never nags you and is never angry, never throws pillows at you. You can fantasize a woman who never ages, who remains always stuck at eighteen years of age – who is always fresh, always young, always beautiful, never falls ill, never makes any demands on you, never betrays you, never looks at any other man with longing, with desire. You can fantasize to no limit, but you will not find this woman anywhere. Now you have created a problem – you are no longer naturally attuned to your sex.

Nature is perfectly capable to be fulfilled, but fantasy cannot be fulfilled. You may find your woman in girly magazines, in pornographic books, but you will not find her in reality. And whosoever you will find in reality will fall short.

That is the problem the West is facing – it has fantasized too much about sex. The West has become sexual through fantasy; the East has become sexual through repression. Both have become sexual and both have lost the natural capacities of enjoying sex. Both have become pathological through different routes. The West has become pathological by fantasizing sex as being the ultimate goal of life, and the East has become pathological by thinking that sex is the ultimate barrier between godliness and man.

Sex is neither: neither is it the ultimate goal nor the ultimate barrier. Sex is a simple phenomenon as hunger or thirst; there is nothing more to it. Neither is it what the Eastern mind has been thinking about it. The Eastern mind is too afraid of sex. Out of fear, sex has moved into the head; through the door of fear it entered into the head.

So the Eastern so-called saints are simply fantasizing about sex because they have repressed it. And that which you repress goes on coming up again and again. It cannot be destroyed; nothing can ever be destroyed by repression. Repression makes sex pathological sexuality. This is one extreme.

The West has moved to another extreme. The other extreme is, fantasize about it. Sex is all, everything else is secondary, so have as much sex as you can. But you cannot have too much sex. There are limitations to the body, but you can fantasize as much as you want, there is no limitation to it. So pornography exists, blue films exist, girly magazines exist, and people are being fed on these illusory mirages. Then no woman, no real man will ever satisfy you.

These are both pathological states. Sexuality is pathological; whether you come to it through greed or fear does not matter. The East has become ill through fear; the West has become ill through greed. Greed and fear are two aspects of the same coin. So on the surface it looks very different, that the East and the West are poles apart. They are not. Those who know, those who can see, can see that it is the same foolishness, the same stupidity. They have arrived to the same stupidity from different doors, that is true, but they have entered into the same place. And both have to be awakened, and both have to be made more enlightened about sex.

Don’t make much fuss about sex either way, that is the first fundamental. If you want sex to become love, the first fundamental is accept sex as an absolutely natural phenomenon. Don’t bring your metaphysics to it, don’t bring your religion to it. It has nothing to do with religion or metaphysics, it is a simple fact of life. It is a way life produces itself. It is as simple as the trees bringing flowers and fruits – you don’t condemn the flowers. Flowers are sex; it is through the flowers that the tree is sending its seeds, its potentiality, to other trees.

When a peacock dances you don’t condemn it, but the dance is sex; it is to attract the female. When the cuckoo calls you don’t condemn it; it is sex. The cuckoo is simply declaring, “I am ready.” The cuckoo is simply calling forth the woman. The sound, the beautiful sound, is just a seduction; it is courtship.

If you watch life you will be surprised. The whole of life is through sex. Life reproduces itself through sex. It is a natural phenomenon, don’t drag unnecessary rationalizations into it.

This is the first thing to be understood if you ever want any transformation of sex energy. The first thing is don’t deny it, don’t reject it, don’t repress it. Don’t be too greedy about it, don’t think that this is all – this is not. There is much more to life. And sex is beautiful. Still, there is much more to life, sex is only the foundation, it is not the whole temple.

Repressed, it becomes sexuality. Fantasized, it becomes sexuality. One is an Eastern way of transforming sex into pathology, the other is a Western way. But nobody, either in the East or in the West, accepts that sex is a simple natural phenomenon. Neither the saints nor the sinners – nobody accepts sex to be a simple natural phenomenon. Both are obsessed with it, hence I say both are not different. Sex accepted, respected, lived, becomes love

Semen is Good for Women’s Health and Helps Fight Depression

Men everywhere have a lot to smile about with the results of a study released by the State University of New York. This study shows that women who perform oral sex are happier and less likely to suffer from depression. The researchers used a survey to ask 293 college-age females on the SUNY-Albany campus questions about sex.

As part of the survey, respondents were asked to fill out the Beck Depression Inventory, which is a common diagnostic tool mental health professionals use to measure mood. The results of the survey were quite intriguing.

The results showed that women who regularly practice oral sex are less likely to be depressed. In addition, the results showed that women who engaged in regular sexual intercourse were less likely to be depressed than women who were abstinent.

Adding further to the evidence that semen is good for women’s mental health, the survey showed that women who had regular intercourse without condoms were less likely to be depressed than women who had regular sex with condoms.

The researchers used this evidence to suggest that it is the consumption of semen rather than the sexual act that gives women the mood-enhancing effects. The researchers noted that semen has been shown to be a heady cocktail of mood-altering chemicals.

The list of mood-altering chemicals in semen starts with serotonin, which is the strongest antidepressant neurotransmitter found in the body. Semen also contains oxytocin, which is commonly known as the “love chemical.” Oxytocin creates feeling of well-being and helps create affection.

Another mood-altering chemical found in semen is melatonin, which relaxes people and helps them get better sleep. Semen also includes the chemicals estrone and cortisol, which are both known for their abilities to improve mood and reduce stress. Another benefit of semen is that it contains thyrotropin-releasing hormone, which is a natural antidepressant.

With all of the mood-improving chemical components found in semen, it is little wonder that the researchers discovered the results that women who engage in regular sex without condoms feel happier.

While this is promising research, it does not mean that the researchers are encouraging women to engage in unprotected sex. The risks of sexually transmitted diseases outweigh the antidepressant benefits of unprotected sex.

However, for women in long-term relationships, the results of the study suggest that they have a natural and enjoyable method available to help them improve their mood and fight depression.

Adjust The Making Love Time With Couples

Have you ever been, or thus often rejected as passionate? In fact, the desire to make love not responded positively by the couple. The arrival of the passion of making love, according to the majority of scholars are speculative and impulsive, even could hardly be controlled by anyone.
Many have assumed the right to fuck if the time will come when you feel sexy, dress sexy, or when couples men showed indications of sex solicitation.
However, according to a recently released survey by LoveHoney, sex tools a firm United Kingdom origin, generally men feel passionate on at seven and eight in the morning. Meanwhile, the women feel very sexy and passionate as the clock showed 11 nights on average.

To approach the research that is unexamined by science, 2,300 people who researched the LoveHoney 68 percent of whom say fuck because the impulse of passion yourself without regulated by time.

Shocked him, only 16 percent of men who said often want sex before bedtime. Some men also stated when he felt more happy if it first initiates the action regardless of the time, but it also depends on the response of the women.
If you or a partner are often dismissed as being passionate, it could be the reason is because of the desire to make love to you and your husband come at a different time. Don't be discouraged, it also occurs in many other couples, kok. However, the way out, adjust the time with couples making love. Feel free to create a moment together when the time is never right turns.
Once in a while, "schedule of fuck" to be enjoyable and enhance morale, lo. But that does not mean you will be based on a schedule. Occasionally, there is no harm in fishing or just make the movement first. Spontaneous or well-planned equally fun, kok.

Well, for those of you who are less passionate about to make love, don't get discouraged because many ways improve libido fuck, one of them by eating foods such as salmon and peaches.

7 Foods decrease your sexual spirits

Certain foods can make you and your partner more passionate and long-lasting intercourse. This is what is called an aphrodisiac.

For example, chocolate is believed to increase sexual arousal when eaten before intercourse. Or, avocados are good for your heart so that blood flow can flow smoothly and make sex more satisfying. Similarly, strawberries contain folic acid and B vitamins that can increase the amount of sperm.



However, don't try eating some of foods below before intercourse. Because of this, food can actually make you or your spouse lost his passion. What's it? This is a list of banned food eaten when you and your partner want to intercourse.

1. Hot dog

The hot dog is a favorite food for people who like fast food. In addition to practical, hot dogs are also rich and savory. However, do not ever try to eat Your hot dog just before intercourse. Because the content of saturated fatty acids, which are high on the hot dog can interfere with blood flow to the penis and the vagina.

2.Peppermint

Odors unpleasant breath that comes from the mouth of the indeed very annoying, even tend to make You lazy close. Typically, people will be chewing on candy so that his breath could be revived.

But, don't ever tackle stinky breath not mess with peppermint perman. The reason, the content of menthol in the peppermint will lower testosterone levels and reduced sexual desire. Not only that, no matter it's not candy chewing you do because it will get you to a new and belching. It could make the passion your partner down instantly.

3.Fried fries

Similarly, such as hot dogs, French fries are the foods that should be avoided before you touch the body.

Because, the fries have a variety of negative effects. The oil used to fry contains trans fats can reduce levels of testosterone and affects the blood circulation to the penis. The content of sodium (salt) in your French fries also trigger high blood pressure so as to make it difficult for an erection.

4. Tahu/ Tofu

One of the foods you should avoid before the fuck is out. His last chapter, contains high fitostrogen so that it can increase estrogen levels. Estrogen levels are too high will decrease the arousal of sex in both men and women. So, it's good you replace the egg with tofu is rich in vitamins B5 and B6 to balance your libido.

5. Wine

Consuming too much wine is not recommended before you touch the body. The reason, consumption of wine can reduce the sensitivity of touch and reduce the pleasure of an orgasm while making love. It is based on a study conducted by the University of Washington. Other conclusions is not a drunk man who could maintain more than a drunk man ereksinya.

6. Energetic drinks

Intercourse does drain a lot of energy. However, consider the energetic can make the drinks stronger stamina is a fallacy. The reason, the content of sugar and caffeine in energy drinks only helps you more energetic in time while only. Moreover, you will be more tired than before. Moreover, energy drinks contain sugar in large quantities so it can lower testosterone levels.

7. Oatmeal

Oatmeal does have many benefits for health. Unfortunately, oatmeal is not a friend of intercourse. Because, taking an oatmeal before screwing it can decrease sexual arousal. The reason is the high fiber content in oatmeal can cause bloating and gas in stomach and decrease sexual arousal.

How To Make Orgasm Easily

In contrast to men who easily reach orgasm, the woman usually takes longer to reach orgasm. However, many women who measure the success of an intimate relationship with the occurrence of the climax. So, often, when the climax is not reached, the woman will do fake orgasm. Whereas, in fact almost all the women did not have an orgasm had been men.

Basically, the achievement of an orgasm depend on the cooperation of the woman and her partner. The men need to play a role to help women reach orgasm. Touch and understanding spouse, that women need time to build a mood of sex and relaxed when sex is the key to helping women achieve orgasm.

Because, in women, feeling loved and appreciated is very important, as it will make the woman feel comfortable and relaxed. This is what the future will bring women at the pleasure of an orgasm. Research shows that women aged 30 years and over had better understand how to achieve orgasm, than women aged 20 years.

Identify Sensitive Point
For you women who are in their 20s, for easy reach orgasm takes some technique and conditioning. One of them is, by means of its own masturbate. Masturbation can be a means of learning to know, how you can achieve an orgasm. Ways you reach the climax, and then may be shared on your partner, teach them some tricks to satisfy you. The key is, the sense of appreciating yourself and communicate with your partner.

After entering the age of the head of the three, although women are more sensitive point of her body to recognize the climax, when there is a change in hormones, this condition can also affect the ability of orgasm in women. Some women in their 30s thus feel most easily reached the climax when premenstrual.

Another key that helps successful orgasm stimulation on the clitoris, is as central to the enjoyment of women. In addition to the clitoris that can be played, the onset of orgasm also depends on the discovery of the G-spot, which is generally right on the front wall of the vagina. Two types of orgasms that generally can happen to women is, simultaneous orgasms going susul-following and multiple orgasm that occur again and again.

In fact, women can experience orgasms even until the age of 60 years. But of course, when starting menopausal there will be changes in terms of hormonal women libido, so is no longer as high as when he was younger. The vagina becomes more dry and can be a pain when you get friction. The most appropriate action is, using the aid of lubricants.

Regardless of the age of women, orgasms can occur with the cooperation of the partner. Here are 8 things that can be done by men to help paara female orgasm:

1. always gentle caresses with Awal sub district as a form of affection. In addition, a romantic atmosphere will make women more relaxed and more easily build the mood for sex. So, it is likely to reach orgasm will be greater.
2. Do slowly, don't rush. Enjoy every moment together as couples sex.
3. Touch the breast. For some women, touches on the breast can help accelerate the onset of orgasm.
4. The men are usually happy with oral sex. Do the same thing on your woman.
5. Invite couples communicate, how or what treatment he wants, in order to achieve an orgasm.
6. give the couple an opportunity to initiate intimate relations first. Have a more dominant position, can make a woman more sexually aroused and reaching orgasm.
7. If a man finally ejaculated first, don't leave your spouse for granted. Still do, like stimuli kiss and touch to help her reach an orgasm.
8. Women have always been pleased with the compliment. Don't be shy give compliments on your partner.